The Season Thus Far- An Irredeemable Mess
r/90DayFianceu/teatimemouseyAug 6
I really needed to clean my house today, but instead wanted to write about all the cast, and this mess of a season, which has not been fun messy but sad and depressing messy. Josh & Catie Since the beginning of time, men have sought to capture the essence of a free-spirited woman, who flits about the world like a butterfly, the classic manic-pixie-dream girl. But instead Josh found himself a mentally disturbed alcoholic nightmare mommy. It’s hard to feel bad for the guy, because he’s so outrageously stupid. Josh must be operating from some new sensory input we don’t know about- because anyone with two eyes and two ears and a WORKING BRAIN would know that Catie is so mentally unwell she shouldn’t even be in a REALTIONSHIP let alone a fucking MARRIAGE. Hell, even Helen Keller would be able to sniff it out. This woman is so insecure that she needs to feel desired physically by everyone in a room, and she aims to achieve that by making out with everything within 30 feet of her. She literally comes right to people and asks for it, straight out- ‘will you make out with me?’ Like a kid asking for candy. Catie, it’s not the OCD, it’s your self-esteem, and it’s not going to magically get better without some acknowledgement and accountability. And that’s without tackling the alcoholism first! It’s honestly so sad that neither of these two people have anyone in their lives capable of sitting them down and saying, hey- this is REALLY BAD. I know, I know, Catie wouldn't listen- you can't force an addict to change, but you could have at least convinced her not to put this on TV. Instead Catie willingly put herself on TLC's most popular show, thinking she’d come across as a cute and quirky girl trying to figure it all out ™ , instead everyone is laughing at her and this will be her image on the undying internet forever. I can’t laugh at it, it’s honestly so sad. Mallorie & Raşit These two are so boring that a bunch of dumb redneck drama and toilet drama had to play out, but it was all for nothing. Because Mallorie is so outrageously selfish, she thought by dragging Raşit all the way across the world, ripping him away from his family and friends, he’d be more likely to accept her deal-breaking news that she knew was deal breaking news. She doesn’t want kids, and he should definitely accept that- why? In her mind, because of sunken cost fallacy or whatever. She thought she could successfully trap him here, thought her sob story about why she doesn’t want kids would win him over, but at the end of the day, the reason why doesn’t matter at all. Sorry, but he’s not selfish for leaving you after this, however you sure as hell are, for expecting him to succumb to your manipulation. Raşit better run, a person who feels empathy for others would have never put someone in this situation. Marissa & Edward A classic 90 day story, bringing home the younger man from the Caribbean vacation. Gee that usually works out. What can I say that hasn’t already been said? This woman clearly doesn’t want to marry this man, because she can’t respect him, because she’s ashamed of him. She feels that he does not match her level intellectually, and she’s never going to get over this, no matter how hard she tries. It was doomed from the start. Edward, this is NOT LOVE. This is a woman who plucked you out of your life because she thought she could mold you into the doll, oops I mean husband, of her dreams. Her ideal man has no thoughts and feelings of his own, except, how can I please Marissa? Edward, she only ‘loved’ you because she thought you were that guy. But no matter how she mutilates your body, forces you to only stick to certain topics of conversation, controls what you eat and how you dress, NOTHING YOU DO will EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH. RUN. Thomas & Paula Honestly, I wouldn’t have run away from Thomas after seeing his apartment for the first time. Maybe he’s trying to save space, save money, I get that. I would have run, however, as fast I could have, when he actively started arguing with me to keep it the way it was after I just moved across the world to be with him. A NORMAL person, with empathy and respect for others, would have said- Yeah, this is my bachelor pad, I know it's not ideal. But now that you’re moving in with me, I know you probably want it different. We can get a real table if you want. But that’s a NORMAL, emotionally healthy person. Who would know that just because he's ok with eating off the floor doesn’t mean everyone else is. Walk into ANY OTHER APARTMENT in the ENTIRE building, Thomas, I dare you, and I’d bet you’d find a dining table in each one. But no, instead Thomas wants to argue about why his way is better. Arguing, arguing, arguing. Stay with this guy and be prepared for EVERY-FUCKING-THING to be an argument. How fucking exhausting to live the rest of your life like this. He’s basically pushing you out of his life while telling you he loves you and wants you in it. Yeah, whatever buddy. You can have yo
